“I have plenty of insecurities — being suspended wouldn’t typically be my thing,” sex swing expert Angela Alexander says. “You’ll normally find me under the sheets. But there is something about getting your hips rotated and being suspended with your partner’s warm hands caressing you in a new way that is really intimate and sexy.” Introducing sex toys is a good first step for couples looking to spruce things up in the bedroom, but for the less adventurous, sex swings may feel too exotic.
We may have made strides in recent years in making sex more of an open conversation, particularly for women, but Alexander says people still fear talking about sex. But by offering a personable, real voice on the end of the telephone, Angela is helping interested parties talk freely and openly about their curiosities. “Normally what I hear is a huge sense of relief when people find our website and all of our videos of women talking about the benefits and how to correctly use sex swings,” she says. “When customers call, they ask if I’m the girl from the videos and instantly feel like they know me and trust my opinion. As with any new item in your life, it’s all about education and just trying it.”
For many people, trying toys in the bedroom is the solution when things start to feel flat. But Alexander says that sex swings shouldn’t feel like an activity exclusively for the super adventurous. “A sex swing is a totally different sensation,” she says. “You are suspended so it gives your partner so many new options to explore your body and new sensations in a safe and fun way.” Some of the hidden benefits of a sex swing aren’t so much related to sensation, but practicality. “Having four children myself, I know the challenges in creating intimacy when you can’t move quite the same. But a swing opens up many new options. No one needs to be on top of anyone else and this allows for awesome sex even when pregnant.” She adds that a swing can make things smoother in the bedroom if a partner has a knee, back or hip injury, making “intimacy more comfortable”.
Even uttering the words “sex swing” to a partner would feel too kinky for some, but the best thing anyone can do is just start the conversation. “Everyone is different and has their own fears and insecurities. We find it is mostly the women who instantly shut out the idea,” Alexander says. To remove the element of fear, she recommends interested customers watch the videos on her website and even pick up the phone. In the age of impersonal online retailers, it’s hard to speak to a real person these days. Alexander assures customers that she is available to have an open and honest conversation with anyone. “As far as more conservative perspectives on sex swings, my nickname around the office is vanilla,” Alexander says. “So if I can love swings, I believe with the right swing for your situation you can too.”
And for anyone that has got a partner on board with new ideas, Alexander assures it can only get better with a swing. “Sex swings are far more fun than nearly any others sex toy on the planet.” But what often holds people back is concerns over the logistics of installation, particularly if they live with roommates or family. “Installation is our biggest question,” Alexander says. “Our suggestion when needing that extra level of privacy and discreteness is to use a screamer sex swing stand. It is the very best stand on the market plus comes with a storage bag and disassembles very small so you can easily hide under the bed or nicely in a closet.”
Now, with more celebrities promoting sex toys, seeing sex swings in films like Rough Night with Scarlett Johansson or TV shows like Black Monday, and even hearing Cynthia Bailey talking about wanting to use a sex swing on her honeymoon, people are feeling more comfortable bringing up the topic in a playful way. Getting people to try something new is always challenging, but when it’s something in the bedroom, it’s an even more tricky ask, especially when it’s an “in your face” kind of item like a sex swing. But more than anything, Alexander understands the feelings around sex swings and just wants people to be able to talk about it. “Obviously [I would say] just try it, but more than that, I understand.”
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