Interest in personal development continues to increase along with the growth of using technology to access it.
One professional has found a way to help others meet the need for personal development as well as their sex and intimacy goals.
Dr. Christy Wise started her online personal development company, Life-Sauce, five years ago soon after closing her clinical practice.
“At the time I saw an entirely new trend and effective way to work with people that could powerfully impact their relationships, sex and intimacy,” Dr. Wise said. “It was an opportunity to really make an impact in reaching a mainstream audience.”
As a personal development coach she helps individuals and couples find happiness through self-empowerment and compassion.
“Compassion is what allows us to embrace our own imperfections,” she said. “It’s what helps us stop making these irrational demands on both ourselves and those around us.” – Dr. Christy Wise
Dr. Wise spent 30 years as a clinical and forensic psychologist evaluating families in child custody and mediations. She formed bonds with some of these families as they were on the verge of breaking apart, so when some of them remarried they came into her office for help with their current relationship.
“I suppose you could say that my specialty of couples and relationships found me,” Dr. Wise said.
The goal of her action-based practice is to provide tools and skills for people to move forward in their lives.
“I’m driven by my love for the human spirit and helping others build rich and full lives,” she said.
Life-Sauce is based in Southern California, though she only provides relationship coaching online or by phone.
Her website provides many free online tools to help individuals and couples with relationships, including videos and tutorials.
One of her online tools is a relationship assessment quiz with a series of questions to evaluate feelings about connections and sexual intimacy. While not diagnostic, Dr. Wise said it can provide insight about personality traits and communication skills.
Because some clients include people who are in the midst of relationship changes, she also offers a free “5 Minute Guide to Getting over a Breakup” online.
“Every relationship change requires a process,” she said. “Working through that process and through these steps can leave you confident and in-control for future relationships.”
She recognizes that technology and dating apps are important in today’s world for starting new relationships, but wants people to be leery of relying too heavily on them.
“In my opinion, many people hide behind these apps and never really go the extra mile. Essentially for some people, dating apps end up hurting their in-person opportunities to find love,” Dr. Wise said.
She concedes that communicating online can be convenient and sweet, and that people have gotten better at articulating feelings and sharing needs, fears and apologies when necessary. Yet she warns that the balance between convenience and self-expression shouldn’t replace a personal connection.
“Laziness has taken over romance a bit which essentially robs everyone involved,” Dr. Wise said. “Partners need to give one another attention in person and particularly in a personal space. That’s something that is irreplaceable.”