Relationships play arguably the biggest role in all of our lives. They are at the core of just about everything we do, from those with family, friends and ultimately, partners. However, relationships are not always smooth sailing – often far from it. Some of us struggle to find intimate relationships, and some of us struggle to keep them.
Fortunately, there are a few experts, who through their own studies and experience, are more than qualified to assist us with everything when it comes to dating and relationships. Here I speak with some of the leading dating & relationship experts, as they share their top tips for successful relationships.
Jaime Bronstein (@therelationshipxpert)
Jaime Bronstein is a relationship therapist, coach, and host of “Love Talk Live” on LA Talk Radio. She was named the “#1 Relationship Coach Transforming Lives in 2020” by Yahoo Finance. For the past 20 years, Jaime has helped clients worldwide heal their past, love themselves unconditionally, tap into their inner strengths and intuition and live more authentically. Jaime empowers her clients not just to find love but to find the right love for them. She is highly sought-after for her relationship advice and has a vast media presence, including KTLA, ABC, NBC and CBS News, PEOPLE, Thrive Global and Bustle. Here are the two top tips Jaime has to offer:
1. Be Vulnerable
If you’re not willing to be vulnerable, your relationship won’t succeed. Vulnerability allows us to connect on all levels; emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. When we share ourselves fully, we subconsciously give the other person in the relationship “permission” to share as well. There’s nothing better than feeling adored and understood, and that stems from vulnerability.
2.Trust Your Intuition
No one knows you better than you, which is why it’s crucial that you honor and trust your feelings instead of second-guessing them. Both people in the relationship should trust their intuition and say what they need to say without fear. Trusting yourself in this way is just as important as trusting your significant other or spouse.
Cora Boyd (@thecoraboyd)
Cora Boyd is a dating and relationship coach and entrepreneur who is focused on helping millennials have a thriving and fulfilling love life. She used to work for a Stanford StartX company and in her role as a top-performing matchmaker, she conducted thousands of interviews that provided her with invaluable insight into modern dating and a deep understanding of why connecting with others is so difficult. Cora wanted to make a change, so she started a coaching business to help people find their love connection with great success. Here are two of the best tips she has to offer:
1. Nurture your individuality
Relationships are living organisms that flow and develop with us. Our independence is as important to a relationship as spending time together, so never stop nurturing your individuality. How healthy your relationship with yourself is will affect your relationship with your partner, so make time for yourself and your interests.
2. Never stop flirting
Attraction is a flame that needs to be stoked, so it’s important to show each other affection. Never stop flirting! Flirting is not only something you do to get a partner and it’s not a given. Don’t neglect this part of the relationship and show each other appreciation, affection, and attraction.
Megan Weks (@themanfunnel)
Megan Weks is a certified coach and the creator of the successful Manfunnel® Method. She’s passionate about championing the cause of high-achieving women who struggle with finding quality partners. Megan leverages the experience she gained in a high-pressure corporate sales job and adjusts her strategies into the dating sphere. Her method implements a specifically defined framework of tools & vantage points that build together to create a new lifestyle. This allows women to feel boldly confident & serene in dating. It also offers insight and understanding into men’s behavior and psychology during the dating process giving women the unfair advantage toward deepening their connections to the men they are interested in. Here are the two best tips she has to offer:
1. Focus on inner work
Focusing on inner work is essential to healthy relationships. In fact, you can’t look for a partner with clarity until you’ve explored the conditioning that has shaped you as a person. In other words, you need to know who you are (and who you’re not) because it will allow you to find a partner that fits with you at the core of who you are at your authentic core. This builds a solid foundation for a relationship.
2. Stay on your trail
Following your path takes courage and hard work, so you shouldn’t allow anyone or any relationship to steer you away from that path and keep you stuck in pain. It can be difficult but moving forward however it is very important if you want to find the next opportunity. Remember, there is always a chance for love!
Angela N. Holton (@angelanholton)
Angela N. Holton is an international dating and relationship expert who is passionate about helping people build healthy and happy love relationships. She created a revolutionary approach, The Conscious Love & Dating Method, and she encourages her clients to radically change their mindset around dating to focus on the most important relationship: the one they have with themselves. Angela offers an 8-week online course that focuses on honing personal and relationship skills in self-awareness, conscious communication, establishing boundaries, vulnerability, mindset mastery, and more. Here are the best two tips she has to offer:
1. Love Yourself
Relationships are an important part of life, but they’re not supposed to be our primary source of happiness and fulfillment. Our happiness, inner-fulfillment and self-worth depend entirely on us, and loving ourselves is the first step. Let go of self-judgment and embrace self-forgiveness, self-integrity, self-compassion, authenticity, and healing so you can follow your dreams and passions.
2. Don’t Project Onto Your Partner
We all come with “baggage”, but it’s unfair to project old wounds onto our partners. While partners serve as mirrors to help us see ourselves, we are responsible for our own healing. We must take accountability for our words, actions, and past, so we can focus on our dreams and passions and open to greater love.
John Ryan De Oca (@therelationshipprescriber)
John Ryan De Oca is a nurse practitioner who has always been interested in social dynamics and interpersonal relationships. In his work as a nurse, he realized how crucial relationships are. He started to look at people holistically and he realized how important inner work is. That’s how The Relationship Prescriber was born, where John helps people understand the role they play in relationships and how to build or repair their relationships in a rewarding and fulfilling way through inner work. Here are his two best tips:
1. Be curious about how people experience you
When we’re dating, we can get caught up in our emotional experience, which means our self-awareness either skyrockets or plummets. That’s why it’s important to take the opportunity to check how your partner is experiencing you. This is not to pressure them for feedback, but to simply approach them with curiosity about how they perceive you.
2. Commit to transparency
Know yourself and commit to transparency by being open about why you are here and what you bring to the table. Many people seek honesty but are apprehensive to give it. If you don’t know your truth yet, that’s okay, being transparent about where you are currently at is still important. Combine your vulnerability with your confidence and speak honestly about what you want and what you don’t. That’s a lot sexier than just “going with the flow” and “seeing what happens.”
Asia Powers (@iamasiapowers)
Asia helps high-caliber, marriage-minded singles find and keep love. She provides coaching and personalized introductions through her boutique matchmaking and dating coaching company.
Asia graduated with a Bachelor’s in Psychology from a prestigious, top liberal arts college. Asia was inducted in Psi Chi, the National Honor Society in Psychology. She has established herself as an expert in interpersonal closeness and creating closeness in relationships.
Asia is also a Certified Matchmaker, Dating/Relationship Coach, and Certified Hypnotherapist. These credentials enable her to have unequivocal success, and here are her top two tips:
1. Connect Through Something
The most common complaint she gets from clients’ partners is that there’s not enough quality time. That’s why Asia encourages clients to connect through something, such as a shared activity or hobby. Learning something new as a couple is a great bonding experience and it strengthens the relationship tremendously. Not to mention it’s fun!
2. Voice More Words of Affirmation
Asia encourages all her clients to speak more words of affirmation to their partners because it’s important to show them how appreciated and loved they are on a regular basis. Make a daily list of 5 things you appreciate or are grateful for about your partner and say it to them throughout the day. No matter what their love language is, they will like to hear those things.
Make sure to go and follow all of these amazing dating and relationship experts, as they continue to thrive and help their clients create happy and fulfilling relationships. Keep up to date with their journeys, as they continue to grow and make their mark on the world.