Jimmy Allen (@jimmyallen) is a certified Love and relationships Coach and expert -dating coach. With over seven years of experience, help courageous & ambitious men and women overcome limitations with confidence, trust, & vulnerability, so they can create big love, own their worth & achieve their life’s ultimate purpose. His approach isn’t focused on cute lines or tricks on how to ‘get’ the person you want, but he disrupts the sabotaging beliefs so you can become the person who easily attracts and cultivates great love.
Recently, Jimmy has been chosen by the magazine Entrepreneur mogul as the top 10 dating coaches of 2021.
How does it feel to be chosen as one of the top 10 coaches of 2021?
It feels amazing. Last year, I worked hard to get my business off the ground. Then, I utilized that downtime for hustling. I hired three of the best business coaches in the industry, and my work is starting to pay off. I had a lot to learn and many limiting beliefs about success, money, and knowing my worth. But that’s the beauty of having a coach in your life.
Jimmy states, “When it comes to love and relationships, majority of us are unconsciously sabotaging our love lives because of our belief systems and our unhealed core wounds that most of us are unwilling to deal with.”
What are some of the core wounds do see with your clients?
When it comes to core wounds, they will run your love life. For example, one of the common core wounds is this sense of constantly feeling alone. Even in relationships, you may still feel alone. Some of the common core beliefs are “I don’t matter.” “I am always alone.” “I am not good enough.” These beliefs will sabotage your love life. It’s a deep sense of self, and it will always play out in your life until you recognize and connect the dots to how you keep it alive. You can change the trajectory of your love life, but you have to be willing to do the work.
What was the biggest challenge in singles or in relationships?
One of the biggest challenges I see with singles and couples is not being crystal clear about their wants and deepest desires. And many people will ignore or compromise their deepest desires to keep someone, and they end up sabotaging the relationship because whatever your deepest desires are, they will always pull on you. So, for example, If you know deep down that you want to be in an open relationship and you compromise that desire to be with someone, most of the time, you end up cheating in the relationship. And sometimes, we compromise our desires because society tells us we shouldn’t want a particular thing or think about open relationships or polyamorous relationships, but if you tune in, and it is my job to help you tune into your deepest desire, it will wake you up. Once you honor your wants and desires, life will quickly shift for you, and you will stop wasting your time on people and things that do not serve you.
What happens when clients become aware of their sabotaging beliefs?
They awake up. It’s a scary moment and the most enlightening moment one can have for themselves and their life. When clients can see it for themselves and how they have been keeping the beliefs alive, they now have the power to change. They can grow and, most notably the heal from their past and choose something different. We aren’t bounded to these behaviors, but we think we are bound. And we say stuff like, “This is who I am.” No, it’s not. When you can’t recognize your sabotaging beliefs for yourself and own them, then you have power. Otherwise, your wounded beliefs have control over you.
Why should people hire a relationship coach?
It will change your life forever. When I had my first relationship, I had no idea what to expect, but she asked me one question that changed my life. That question helped me get to the source of so much pain that I was holding on to, and it helped me release so much shit. Yeah, I cried. Yes, I had to have a comfortable conversation with the person I had all this resentment towards, but in the end, my life changed, and my ability to love from a healthy place was born. I healed. I grew. I was happier. That’s the real secret behind a juicy love life. Be willing to do the work. A good coach asks tough questions to help you get to the source of the very thing that is holding you back, and once that source is uncovered, your whole life changes, and life becomes colorful and full of endless possibilities.