How many times have you allowed yourself to get triggered by casual situations such as heavy traffic, a moody cashier, or yet another spilled coffee? You either explode with anger and frustration or contract into a ball of disappointment, hoping to escape reality whenever things don’t go the way you expect them to. That’s not how you want to come across in your relationships, partnerships, and life as a whole. It’s simply not who you truly are, and you know it. Luckily, life doesn’t have to be a daily drama, and you’re not meant to stress yourself out until the day you die.
“There’s an unfortunate misconception that we are supposed to struggle and be in a constant unease when facing daily challenges, but it cannot be further from the truth,” says Transformational Coach and founder of Redefining Success, Ruta Stasiunaite. According to Ruta, it is a matter of desire to live a drama-free life and a moment-by-moment commitment to making conscious choices. “Once we learn, as I call it, the Mind Mechanics of the way our minds function, and then practice self-regulation accordingly – we become more patient and productive, we communicate and listen better, we essentially turn out to be genuinely confident, charming, peaceful and easy-going human beings.” And that is what life is all about – enjoying it authentically.
Ruta Shares 3 Steps To Regain Control Of Your Emotional State Once And For All:
- Accept your past. The first step to end the drama is making peace with the past and everything that made you who you think you are today. You cannot change your past, so better learn from it. The way you react to situations is an accumulation of the traumatic experiences (big and small) you’ve had along the way. Imagine it like a wound that is always open, every time you pour salt – it hurts. You have got to heal your wounds to be able to think clearly and respond from a pure place. So make peace with what has happened to you, forgive yourself and others, and cultivate a new, much freer attitude with no resentment.
- Take responsibility. Internal and external conflicts get instigated due to subconscious projections of our own insecurities, doubts, and fears onto other people and situations. There is no external conflict when there’s no conflict within. Thus, your responsibility is to take ownership of the automatic reactions and investigate why they show up the way they do. Once you become honest with yourself and others – drama turns into a conscious resolution. The only person you can ever change is you, others will adjust consequently.
- Pay attention. Long-lasting transformation can only occur if we commit to it wholeheartedly. Think about it this way, you’ve lived a certain way for decades since you were a child, naturally, it will take a little while to transition from the old state of being to the new one. In order to make it stick, you must pay attention to your daily thought patterns and behavioral tendencies. As soon as you notice something triggering you – acknowledge it, try to understand it, learn from it, and respond differently next time. Patience is key in the journey to emotional stability, so remember to be kind to yourself.
Consistently applying these 3 steps on a momentary basis do not only prevent drama from happening but also empower people as they finally have control over the way they choose to respond to external circumstances. This way, intentional attitude and directing one’s own movie become second nature, instead of letting life happen to them.
As a result of this work, Ruta’s clients have turned their romantic relationships from being on a verge of a divorce to a fulfilled and passionate love; from distant and cold relationships with children to them trustfully asking for advice with personal matters; from barely finding time to exercise or prepare healthy meals to spending active weekends in nature with friends and prioritizing self-care daily, bringing mind-blowing results in all areas of life without ever working harder. Looking for a way to end daily drama? Reach out to Ruta Stasiunaite by visiting her website and shooting her an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Or follow her on LinkedIn or Instagram for more updates.
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