Lack of confidence, fear of speaking up, having no identity, feeling lost; these are just some of the issues that teenagers face nowadays.
Teens with low confidence are less inclined to join in activities, bound to hold back in class, and maybe more able to give in to peer pressure. At this point when a teenager needs certainty, they might expect to fail at things they try, or they might not try as hard, or maybe not even try at all when things get tricky.
But how can teenagers gain confidence and overcome their fears?
We have teamed up with Armani Domb to answer that question.
Armani Domb is the son of a high-performance coach; Veronica Natzia – a profoundly pursued Confidence coach and business mentor, COO (Chief Operating Officer) of Hudson-International Freight Logistics, and a Jay Shetty Certified Life and Success Coach.
Well, Armani is a 14-year-old young yet very inspirational teen who once struggled with his self-esteem, was afraid to speak up and share his thoughts and feelings because he was afraid of the fact that he would get picked on.
According to Armani, “I was always trying to fit in, and to do so, I had to try and change who I am or pretend to be someone else. I had enough, and it was time for me to stop trying to fit in and start standing out. I gained the confidence and the courage to speak up and start doing what I love and not what I am supposed to do.”
In carrying you close to your real self, goals, visions, and objectives, Armani has four tips that can be carried out in your day-by-day way of life:
Stop Consuming Mindless Content
You need to differentiate between mindless content and productive content. Consumption apps are probably where you currently spend the majority of your time such as Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok and much more. We spend hours furiously swiping back and forth between these apps as they provide us with entertainment but do they make us productive or help us in leveling up? No, they don’t.
You need to stop consuming content that brings you no good and doesn’t make you a high-level person as it is nothing but a waste of time and energy. Start consuming content that is more educational and can help you get productive.
The person you can trust the most, be comfortable with the most, and be 100% honest with is yourself.
When you need to talk to someone, don’t look out but look in.
Make a rundown of your life experiences in which you felt the most comfortable and confident in. In which you felt like your own superhero and felt like you learned a valuable lesson. -Ask yourself what are the skills that you used? What did you do to overcome the hard situations and become your own superhero? Focus on those skills you used and use them. Those skills are your strength – they are your superpower.
Track Your Triggers
On any given day, you most likely experience a scope of feelings — excitement, unease, frustration, joy, disappointment.
Your reaction to these events can shift in light of your mind and the circumstances surrounding the situation.
A profound trigger is anything — including experiences or events — that sparks an intense emotional reaction, regardless of your current mood.
A key stage in figuring out how to perceive your triggers includes focusing when circumstances produce areas of strength for a reaction.
Regularly tracking your feelings in a diary can assist you with perceiving explicit examples, like close to emotional triggers and times of greater vulnerability.
Maybe you notice you find it pretty easy to keep your cool when your teacher critiques your work, but the same can’t be said when you feel like your friend doesn’t want to spend time with you.
Your standard reaction to this trigger, which is closing down, typically just aggravates you. Instead, you resolve to start a conversation with your friend next time these emotions come up.
Observe Your Behavior
The observing self is maybe the seat of what it is to be human. To the extent that it is, no other creature has the ability to reflect on reality and its own place inside that reality; assuming that different creatures truly do have something almost identical, it is to a much lesser degree.
All things considered, it is critical to notice your way of behaving and work on it – positive or negative as it shapes you and your future.
Great things happen when we start believing in ourselves and are confident in our abilities and choices. Armani helps teenagers believe in themselves and become someone that every teenager can look up to. You should believe in yourself, in what you’re capable of, and in what you are made of, as it’s all within your control.
“You are born great now it’s time for you to own your greatness” – Armani Domb.